If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.
The benefits of forgiveness are limitless.
Put emotions to thoughts. Thoughts to words. Words to paragraphs. Paragraphs to pictures. Let your mind be known, heard and seen. Your thoughts are real as it could be.
All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.
Besides,love is only a feeling.
A crucial element of the real self is its unconditional acceptance of itself.
In simple, the past is a time gone by and no longer exists in the present moment, but we choose to allow this past to occupy our minds, our bodies and our very existence.
He who licks his wounds cannot be affectionate
Perfectionism is adaptive if you are mindful of your humanhood.
Love is a kind of symptom that arises through the repression of libido.
I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.
Mistakes are, after all, the foundations of truth, and if a man does not know what a thing is, it is at least an increase in knowledge if he knows what it is not.
How can I be substantial if I do not cast a shadow? I must have a dark side also If I am to be whole
My love is something valuable to me which I ought not to throw away without reflection.
How hurtful it can be to deny one's true self and live a life of lies just to appease others.
Our ability to adapt is amazing. Our ability to change isn't quite as spectacular.
When the writing is good, a book becomes a mirror. The reader will see an uncanny familiarity and respond accordingly.
When the mind is free, magic happens.
One can learn from what is not said.
Directing the mind to stay in the present can be a formidable task.
It is awesome to note that the works your work are working but that should not be a joy. The ultimate joy should be that the works of your work are indelible.
When you walk,go different roads that take you nowhere,and see your world.
Some women tend to bring insults into a little show you put forth to make them laugh, but they later accuse you of some abnormality if you keep them at arms length in order to regain your respect.
The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working in order to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.
Letting go of the past, is like opening the flood gates of healing to be set free.
They were determined to find something mechanically wrong with him - because broken machines are easier to fix.
The change of the word does not alter the matter
Our outer relationships are a mirror of the relationship and communication between our own inner male and female sides. Our outer relationships with a man or a woman are a possibility to understand our own inner man or woman.
Love born in the brain is more spirited, doubtless, than true love, but it has only flashes of enthusiasm; it knows itself too well, it criticizes itself incessantly; so far from banishing thought, it is itself reared only upon a structure of thought.
Wisdom is not guaranteed with age but is realized through one's sensitivity to humanity and the universe
We are supposed to call poison medicine and we wonder why we're always sick.
In the realm of Greater Understanding, the workshop is dismantled after the work is finished.
Only the liberation of the natural capacity for love in human beings can master their sadistic destructiveness.
When a love-relationship is at its height there is no room left for any interest in the environment; a pair of lovers are sufficient to themselves
All writing problems are psychological problems. Blocks usually stem from the fear of being judged. If you imagine the world listening, you'll never write a line. That's why privacy is so important. You should write first drafts as if they will never be shown to anyone.
Our work is not to become a better person, but to become present to the perfection we already are.
We can understand the inherent radiance & purity of our minds by understanding metta. Like the mind, metta is not distorted by what it encounters.
Like water poured from one vessel to another, metta flows freely, taking the shape of each situation without changing its essence.
When we practice metta, we open continuously to the truth of our actual experience, changing our relationship to life.
Such is the great nature of man, it resides the true face beneath a glittering masquerade.
The quest of the alchemists to turn lead into gold is a metaphor for our attempts to turn the base metal of ourselves, that person hooked on consumerism, filled with angst and ambition, into the gold of what we can be and really are.
The cruelty itself is motivated by something deeper: the wish to know the secret of things and of life.
Deception and self-deception are intimately intertwined. We fool ourselves in order to fool others, and we fool others in order to fool ourselves.
I have heard that we are spirits having a human experience. Perhaps those of us who have no conscience are dark spirits having a human experience.
A life without love is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. So, keep love in your heart if not your best friend today will turn to your worst enemy tomorrow.
Even a feeble-minded man wants to be like other men.
A child may not know how to feed itself, or what to eat, yet it knows hunger.
Baseless victimhood is usually the last stage before outright aggression.
Excuses are a promise of repetition.
What we do not confront, we inhabit.
What we do not reject, we accept.
What we do not fight, we become.
We already live on the planet of war, we already live on the red planet, and it's a war against children. All the other wars are just the shadows of the war on children.
The tombstone over the grave of the conscience always reads: "Human Nature".
When creativity is seen as more important than facts, we will find ourselves in a world where problems are solved more often than spoken of.
All depression has its roots in self-pity, and all self-pity is rooted in people taking themselves too seriously.
The American educational psychologist Patricia Alexander has expressed the view that fear paralyses and curiosity empowers. Accordingly, she reasons, we should always be more interested than afraid.
…if you cannot hate you cannot love. If you cannot bite you can not kiss. If you cannot curse you cannot bless. Who cannot be a good hater will be a poor lover.
The fear to love reaches sometimes the depth of a panic, resembles sometimes the fear to die.
The expression of preferences is the essence of love.
Knowledge is responsibility, which is why people resist knowledge.
There is no external solution to the problem of insecurity.
Imagining that you are deep and complex, but others are simple, is one of the primary signs of malignant selfishness.
We raise predators by treating children as prey.
The true self is that which is in touch with reality.
The false self is the aspects of your personality that are adapted to threats and no longer consciously recognizes either the adaptation or the threat.
We all go a little mad sometimes.
Maslow's five values are the values for which people live when they have nothing to live for. Nothing has seized them, nothing has caught them, nothing has driven them spiritually mad and made them worth talking to.
We are haunted houses of history.
Nobody that we meet ever dies while we are alive.
There are essentially three types of people: those who love life more than they fear it, those who fear life more than they love it, and those who have no clue what I'm talking about.
The person following is never in control, which she knows full well and which is exactly why she does it.
To a certain degree,
We all seek, life’s purpose and meaning,
love, peace and joy,
and knowledge, wealth and power…
Writing is a solitary existence, especially if you forget to chat to your friends – sorry, I meant characters.
Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.
In general, people are not drawn to perfection in others. People are drawn to shared interests, shared problems, and an individual's life energy.
Humans connect with humans. Hiding one's humanity and trying to project an image of perfection makes a person vague, slippery, lifeless, and uninteresting.
All humans are alike and all humans are equal. It is just the perception of the eye that sees any different.
Many things are mechanical and should remain mechanical. But mechanical thoughts, mechanical feelings - that is what has to be studied and can and should be changed. Mechanical thinking is not worth a penny. You can think about many things mechanically, but you will get nothing from it.
People with a psychological need to believe in marvels are no more prejudiced and gullible than people with a psychological need not to believe in marvels.
most psychologists/philosophers we've learned about have experienced severe depressions, attempted suicide, were considered 'freaks' or 'insane' by their peers, locked themselves in their rooms, felt socially isolated, were either celibate or extremely promiscuous, and rarely found 'love
But I MUST say what I feel and think in some way - it is such a relief! But the effort is getting to be greater than the relief.
Only when we learn to value the differences among us can we achieve the true spirit of humanity.
Philosophy is to religion as psychoanalysis is to pseudoscience
Sometimes the world is so much sicker than the inmates of its institutions.
Politically, the goal of today’s dominant trend
is statism.
Philosophically, the goal is the
obliteration of reason;
psychologically, it is the
erosion of ambition.
Emptiness and the not-“I” is the quality that arises when the therapist consciously moves out of his own way without hindering the therapeutic process through his own ideas, attitudes, expectations and concepts. He is present, available and responds with the truth in the moment.
It looked as though you did not act in a certain way because you thought in a certain way, but rather you thought in a certain way because you were made in a certain way. Truth had nothing to do with it.
Have you ever felt love?
Did you need scientific proof of this? How would you have definitively and scientifically proved your love existed? If you could not prove it, would that mean your love didn't exist? What would you trust: your own feelings, or science?
In the therapeutic process based on awareness, there exists no ”I" – it just exists a presence, a light, a love and a silence.
We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art-we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones.
'Not spoiling' a child means trying to break that child's spirit.
Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.
His sudden mad love for Sibyl Vane was a psychological phenomenon of no small interest. There was no doubt that curiosity had much to do with it, curiosity and the desire for new experiences; yet it was not a simple but rather a very complex passion.
Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.
What is demanded of man is not, as some existential philosophers teach, to endure the meaninglessness of life, but rather to bear his incapacity to grasp its unconditional meaningfulness in rational terms.
She was reflecting back on a truth she had learned over the years: that people heard what they wanted to hear, saw what they wanted, believed what they wanted.
You have to be able to recognize your truths in the daylight before you can find them in the dark.
The toxic behaviors were there before you decided to enter into relationships with them. The signs were there. You may have chosen to look the other way, but the signs were there. - Psychotherapist from Type 1 Sociopath
Metaphysics means nothing but an unusually obstinate effort to think clearly. The fundamental conceptions of psychology are practically very clear to us, but theoretically they are very confused, and one easily makes the obscurest assumptions in this science without realizing, until challenged, what internal difficulties they involve.
An outree explanation, violating all our preconceptions, would never pass for a true account of a novelty. We should scratch round industriously till we found something less excentric.
The Sufi must be able to alternate his thought between the relative and the Absolute, the approximate and the Real.
Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.
For, after all, how do we know that two and two make four? Or that the force of gravity works? Or that the past is unchangeable? If both the past and the external world exist only in the mind, and if the mind itself is controllable – what then?
I suppose therefore that all things I see are illusions; I believe that nothing has ever existed of everything my lying memory tells me. I think I have no senses. I believe that body, shape, extension, motion, location are functions. What is there then that can be taken as true? Perhaps only this one thing, that nothing at all is certain.
Life's managed, not cured.
I have learnt through bitter experience the one supreme lesson to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmuted into a power which can move the world.
Thought is so cunning, so clever, that it distorts everything for its own convenience.